Getting Pregnant Is Not As Easy As 1, 2, 3.....Thanks For Nothing Sex Ed Class!

This post may get a little vulgar with sexual issues/content (I guess?), so I'm warning you now....

If you're still reading, that means you are OK to talk about something that is rarely talked about....INFERTILITY. Why is it that growing up we were scared straight by our parents about the doom and gloom of SEX! My parents made me feel like I could get pregnant by just looking at a boy! Even sitting next to a boy gave me the heebie jeebies because I didn't want any parts of popping out any babies via the way of breathing the same air as that boy. 

Essentially, school and home drilled into us the idea that if you have unprotected sex, then you will instantly get pregnant. Unfortunately, pregnancy is not as easy as society or our families make it seem.

 Prior to becoming a wife I could care less about my future, creating a family, and what my future husband might want as far as children go. 

Once marriage was on my radar, as with most women, my fertility concerned me. I went to my Gynecologist and took a few tests to make sure everything was good. Upon receiving my results, the doctor saw low levels of something (I wasn't paying attention as the time...don't know the name. Terrible I know!!!). The doctor even mentioned the possibility of PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome). I was floored. I had no idea what PCOS was, but when I researched it a bit more, I learned that it prevented some women from getting pregnant EASILY.   

Notice the capitalization of EASILY. PCOS is not a death sentence because people are still able to get pregnant, (even with that diagnosis) it'll just be more work. I don't know if I have PCOS 100% because the doctor said she saw signs of it, but I do know that GOD has the final say so about popping out babies. I'll do my "baby dancing" with my husband and shittttt, I'll enjoy it. I will be proactive though and give myself a fighting chance. 

I recently purchased a fertility tea from a company called Pink Stork and used it for a month. Reviewers have mentioned or given credit to this tea for getting them pregnant within 1 or 2 months. I'm not saying I expect a tea to get me pregnant *side eye* but it can't hurt. I have also been taking prenatal vitamins to get my body ready for a mini human inside of me and I'm also getting ready to leave the alchohol for a little bit (If you know me, you know this hurts). F*ck! Hopefully *smile* all of those things will encourage one brave  sperm soldier to swim on home to mamma's egg. 

So ladies.....have you used this tea? Have your heard of this tea? Give me the TEA!!!!!! See what I did there? Hahaha! Any hoodle, I will keep you guys posted!!!!!

I Love My 4C Hair!!!

Hey blogger familayyyyy! See, told ya I would be back! Haha. Anyways, for those that have been following me for years, you would have known that I last left you guys as being texlaxed. I liked being texlaxed, but I felt like after a while I wasn't getting the look that I was going for. I initially became texlaxed because I wanted my hair to gain some thickness, and it worked in the beginning. I texlaxed every three months like clockwork and it was fairly convenient. During my three month stretches I noticed my curl pattern, and I was so curious about it. I loved how the hair would coil and I loved how much thicker my hair was towards my scalp. I would secretly cut pieces of my hair where I saw my natural curls begin because I was obsessed with seeing how my hair curled up without the texlaxed hair on the ends. When I was relaxed, I rarely wore my real hair out because I felt like it was too thin. I was embarassed at how weak my hair appeared. My hair gained a little more strength when I decided to transition to being texlaxed, but it was still limp when straightened. I talked myself into taking the plunge of going natural.

Ladies, there are two ways of becoming a natural. You could big chop or long term transition to become natural through the use of protective styles. I opted to go natural through the use of protective styles while gradually cutting my hair. I won't lie, the first serious chops I did on my own by using hair sheers that I bought from Walgreens. I felt as if cutting the hair on my own gave me a sense of control and it wasn't as traumatizing. I no longer went to the hair salon once I decided to transition and again, I did this because I wanted control. I stayed away from straightening, I washed my hair weekly, and I gradually cut my more straighter ends off. I used box braids, crochet braids, and buns to transition. I've been transitioning for about two years now and I finally got rid of my texlaxed hair. The pictures currently show where my hair is and I more recently got a professional trim. 

Pros of Long Term Transitioning:

• You get used to working with your hair and understanding what it loves/hates.

• You can wear styles (like flexi rods/perm rods) to blend your different textures.

• You have hair to work with for other protective styles such as box braids/crochet braids/bunning with or without a hairpiece (phonypony).

• You ease yourself into the idea of becoming natural instead of... (chop-pity chop....ALL GONE!)

• You can transition until you get your hair to a length that you are more comfortable with wearing out.

I said all that to say ....I love being natural. People had all kinds of opinions about me going this route. My mom even hinted at my natural hair making me less attractive, but this is MY HAIR. If someone can't love me because of the hair coming out of my scalp then f*ck em. The funny thing is though, as my hair thickened up, my mom began asking for pointers *insert eye roll*

I'll go more into the opinions of others in another post, but ladies love your sh*t. If you don't, then nobody else will. 4A, 4B, 4Q, 4Z.... rock the hell out of your hair and make apologies to not a soul!

Waking up on Christmas Prank

Keep Calm...I'm Married!!!!

Hi Blogger!!!!! Excuse me while I blow the dust off of this bad boy. *Inhale followed by a blow*
Wow this is crazy. I last published something on this blog two years ago. I'm sorry. I know, I abandoned you after I let you alllll the way in. I'm an awful person and I get it. Well where we last left off I was going through a breakup and as you can see that's no longer the case. The long relationship I was trying to get over actually turned into a marriage and I'm no longer the bitter Betty that I was in my last post. I've been married for about 5 months now, so it's still pretty fresh. The planning of the wedding was a stressful headache and if any of you are looking for tips...stay tuned.

And to answer the question everyone is dying to ask when they find out you are a newlywed ......NO I'M NOT PREGNANT AND NO WE AREN'T TRYING. Lmao. GIVE ME PEACE!

For real though....married life is cool. It's like a never ending sleep over with your best friend. You can't beat that. My interests are all over the place now. In my hiatus I've picked up photography and gaming as hobbies. When I say gaming I mean SIMS 4....but I digress. I'm learning how to cook, clean, and be domesticated (which is HARD WORK). Living with my mom had me spoiled as hell and I had no idea what it took to  make a house a home. It's not easy being a wife. The adjustment of living for someone else and doing things to keep afloat as a unit. Whew! The stress honey! As difficult as it is, I'm so grateful to have found my other half and all of this is worth it. I could write a book at this point in my life, but for now I guess blogger will be my outlet. Lol.


Hope you guys are well and are going through positive changes in your life as well. Sending positive vibes to all my queens! Keep your crowns up! Oh and Merry Christmas!