Bantu Knot To The Rescue!!!

Hey Gals and possibly some guys...lol. What is up everybody!?!

As a texlaxed lista I find myself having great difficulty with styling my hair. My hair is much coarser than it was when I was fully relaxed. So naturally, I'm always on the hunt for more ways to make my locs more presentable. 

With this particular style I was inspired by the natural haired ladies and their lucious puffs. I have about shoulder length hair and getting my hair into a ponytail holder is a task. In order to complete this style you would only need to have the leg part of a stocking (yoou have to cut the leg of the stocking based on how thick your hair is). Ponytail holders give me the struggling ponytail look, which is definitely not what I'm going for since my hair is not straight (and appears shorter than it actually is).

I had about 14 bantu knots in my hair overnight and in the morning I unraveled them. 

 After unraveling I took the leg of my stocking and maneuvered my hair into a puff. I love this style, and it's pretty cool that I could achieve it with no extensions. 

Love it...hope you guys give it a shot. 

Throw A Rain Coat On That Bad Boy Asap!

Hey Guys I Just Wanted To Touch On A Topic That Really Disgusts Me....Cheaters. Like Dead Azz Those People Make Me Sick. My Thing Is If Ur In A Loving Relationship And U Claim To Love Ur Girlfriend/Boyfriend But Screw Everything With A Nana/PeePee Why Not Just Let The Person U "Love" Go. Ask Them For Space Or Keep It 100 By Telling Them U Wanna Be A Straight Up Dog.

Nothing Kills Me More Than The Fake Azzness..I Have To Speak On This Ish That Probably Happens More Than I Know.

So The Other Day I'm Hanging Out With Three Of My Male Friends. Out Of The Blue (I Guess They Feel Comfortable Discussing Their Trifling Azz Ways In Front Of Me) One Of The Guys Starts Running His Ignorant A** Mouth About A Girl He's Messing With. First Off He Tells Us The Girl Is Emotionally Unstable..."One Second (His Words) She Wants To F*ck, The Next Second She Doesn't"....He's Basically Talking To Her B/c He's A Horny Toad....Crazy Thing Is That He Has A G/f Of Two Years.

So Anyways He's Been Talking To This Emotionally Unstable Girl And He Was Explaining To Us All Of Her Actions While He Was Trying To "Hit". We Finally Asked Him If This Girl Was Raped Based On Her Actions....The Dirty Horny Toad Said Yes (But By Her Ex Boyfriend Who Took Sexual Advantage Of Her) So All Three Of Us Are Like U Better Leave That Crazy Girl Alone (Since She Doesn't Know He Has A G/f)...This Is Gonna Blow Up In Ur Face Etc. Then He Tells Us One Time He Went 2 Her House, Left His Condoms Home B/c He Didn't Wanna Hit Since The Girl Kept Giving Him A Hard Time But Slipped Up B/c The Girl Finally Really Wanted Some Badly So He Sexed Her Without A CONDOM....He Said "I'm Not Gay So I Did It". Bad Enough Ur A Disgusting, Cheating Dog But Now Ur Putting Ur Innocent G/f At Risk For An Std....Just Ughhhhhhhhhh. He Doesn't Know This New Girl's Sexual Past At All....Just Effin Nasty!

All Three Guys Were Sitting There Laughing Like The Ish Was Funny And He Was Making The Whole Thing A Joke....Like Possibly Contracting HIV Is Some Type Of Joke...But In My Head I'm Thinking (Thanx..Nasty Asses...This Is Why I Will Never Put Anything Past ANY Man....Not Even My Husband *If I Get Married*). Mind U This Man ( I Don't Even Wanna Call Him A Man), This Boy Claims He Wants To Marry His Girlfriend. This Wasn't Even The First Time He Stepped Out On His Woman And Most Likely It Won't Be The Last. After Talking About The Emotional Girl He Tells Us About Another Chick He's "Working On" But Didn't "Hit" Yet And How He Asked Her If She Ever Wanted To Do Anal With Him (She Said Yes..They've Known Each Other For A Month At The Most)....JUST OMGGGGGGGGGG. Seriously???!!!????

My Thing Is If U Wanna Test Drive Other Cars....Etc. Just Let Ur Girlfriend Go...Tell Her U Want Space B/c That'll Get U More Respect Than Cheating On Her. When U Finally Get Ur Dog Azz Ways Out Of Ur System (If U Guys Are Meant 2 Be) She Will Come Back After Ur "Break"...I Mean Damn....Just SMFH.

P.P.S = Ladies Be careful....Seriously, Wrap It Up.

Black Man

The creature they look at in such a strange way.
You baffle them, confuse them, take them mentally to another place.

Such strength in your body, love in your soul, passion running through your veins
to accomplish all of your goals.

But they wouldn't know...They're not going to believe that you have dreams because the
painted scenes on the T.V. screens speak reality.

Unfortunately reality screams killers and thieves...Far removed from the likeness of
powerful beings like Martin Luther King.

No, the black men of today are considered a different thing. No longer human beings, your lives have no meaning. Killing one another and shocked when you are murdered by others.

Black man partaking in any old illegal thing just to reach the "American Dream" by any means.
Please black man stop giving therm a reason to shoot. Always keep in mind that they don't pity you.

They never walked in your shoes, they have no clue. They didn't have to work twice as hard as you to get twice as far. Life is hard. Your mouth didn't have a silver spoon, so you know why you do what you do.

But listen up black man, keep thinking about it that way and there will be no hope for our race. Getting money the fast way will be a pointless endeavor if you catch a case.

Feeling Sexy! Rawrrr!

Alright, as we all know life can get busy. Sometimes with all of life's obligations I find it hard to be a delicate and pretty little flower (eye roll). We should get lost in our femininity sometimes, and be the godesses that we were meant to be....but...this is real life you say? No sweat!

If we take the time to throw on some eyeliner, mascara, and keep our eyebrows neat then that is all there is to it. I often found myself rushing out of the house too tired to be bothered about my appearance, but it matters. The way you carry yourself on a day to day basis is judged, so why not put your best face forward?  Ladies if you look good then you will feel good, and that is the honest truth. 

When you know you look good, there is a different aura to you that people can't ignore. Your stride is different, your confidence is through the roof, and people are drawn to that (not just in a sexual way). I'll give you an example. 

I'm a four eyed dweeb. I've been wearing glasses since I could remember, but I wear them sparingly because I'd discovered contacts. Lol...anyway...My boyfriend bought me the cutest frames, but I'm an avid contact wearer. I wanted my new glasses to be a permanent statement piece, so I went searching all of youtube to find out how I could look better with the use of makeup (while wearing glasses). I always hated glasses and felt like they made me look goofy/unapproachable. So I took my newly acquired knowledge about "makeup for glasses" and put things to the test. I kid you not....I've never gotten this much attention with glasses on. I learned that men are interested in women with glasses. Is the makeup catching their attention....or is it my confidence because of the makeup? I think its a little bit of both (but more because of my confidence). 

You see ladies, I'm at ease when I know I've invested time in making myself look good. I'm not saying we need to pile on the makeup to feel good, it's not even about makeup! It's about taking 5 minutes out of your jam packed schedule to make yourself feel good/attractive. For some it might be makeup, for others it might be fixing their hair a certain way, or throwing on regular pants instead of sweat pants. Enhance the beauty that is you and watch how your mood changes. The picture below was me on Valentine's Day. I wasn't in anything that I consider to be a "freakum dress", but I still felt sexy because I did take time out to flatiron my hair and beat my face. Taking that time out for myself enabled me to feel good...no matter what attire I had on.