February 25, 2017

30 and Single as F*ck

I'm back and I'm better (in the words of Bryson Tiller). Long time no see blogger family. I've been around. Life has taken its toll, and I've just been tied up. I've gotten a career and I barely have time to relax (it's a gift and a curse).  No complaints there, just blessed.

I've hit the milestone of 31, and is it me or do women start freaking out about their love lives when they hit 30?

Well I did and it wasn't pretty. I was dating someone for 4 years, and after ultimatums/threats I had to leave him. He refused to commit to me and wasn't financially able to. I do regret it and it's up there among the hardest things that I've had to do. I was in love and thought I was with the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but he didn't feel the same way.

As a women I feel like I give so much of myself and for whatever reason I always come up empty handed. I love and I love hard, but all for no reason. 

Right now I am over love and all that it has to offer. I am convinced that cat lady will be my title in the next couple of years (maybe dog lady because I hate cats). 

As much as I want to bury myself and stay away from the opposite sex, I do find it important to keep trying. 

Love got away from me this time, but next time I think I will get it beat.  

How many of you have started over after a long relationship? How did you get out of your post  breakup funk? 

July 26, 2015

Wearing My Real Hair REGULARLY?!?

Hey Blogger Family!

I've been sticking to my word and have been consistently wearing my natural hair (minus weaves/hair pieces). It has been fun, but wearing my hair out is both good and bad. I LOVE having the ability to be free and feel the wind blowing through my scalp...lol. The con about wearing my real hair is the frequent manipulation that I have to do on a nightly basis. I obviously don't have natural curls/coils, so oftentimes I have to set my hair at night to get the look that I desire. I'm faking the natural look till I make it! I usually do a twist and curl by using flexi rods on the ends of my hair.

I wash my hair, steam, and deep condition on a weekly basis. The past two weeks I've found myself gravitating towards setting my hair on flexi rods after my wash, but that process is so tedious (ugh!). Down below is how I style my hair once I get sick of the flexi rod set.....

On my youtube channel I actually put up a tutorial on how I did a Mohawk on my texlaxed hair. I LOVED this style, but I still have to tweak a few things. I will leave a link at the end of this post, but my pictures are below.....

Any-who, that was my little update guys. I hope your summer hair is giving you life...lol. 



July 11, 2015

New York State of Mind

So this summer I've decided that I wanted to experience as much of my city as I can. As a New York native, I realize that I definitely take the big apple for granted. My goal is to live....seize the day....YOLO...and all of that good stuff. There are plenty of free/affordable things to do around the tri-state area without spending more than bus/train fare. 

The other day my boyfriend and I went to Central Park. This park is so relaxing but at the same time very entertaining. There are street performers, rowboating, picnic areas, bike rentals, restaurants, and running paths to get some jogging in. I would definitely recommend taking a date to this park. 

My boyfriend and I opted to go rowboating on that particular day, and it was so romantic! I mean one can't help but to be cheesy when your significant other is rowing you around a lake. After our mini adventure we decided to eat a late lunch from a local deli. 

I notice that people tend to get so caught up in putting off their happiness. Sometimes we become overly consumed with accomplishing our goals, and we supress happiness because of our unrelenting need to make it to point x, y, z. Unfortunately, when in this state of focus we forget to stop and take a minute for ourselves. Stop and smell the flowers! 

I'm skilled at putting off "being happy". I say things such as: If only I had ________ job, I would be happier......or when I have a higher paying job I will go to ________ for fun.

What about now? What about the present? What can I do to be happy now? Am I happy now? Work on finding happiness no matter how close/far you are from reaching your goals. Are you interacting with family? Have you tried to be a more loving individual? Are you taking time out to appreciate what you have at this very moment such as your health, shelter,  and family/friends?

I want to live life because tomorrow isn't guaranteed. I may never accomplish all of my goals, but I can be the best friend, sister, cousin, daughter, girlfriend, and human that I can be. 

The point of my rambling is basically to say life is made to be lived. 

July 05, 2015

My Drugstore Lipstick Collection For Darkskinned Ladies

Hey Blog Peeps! 

Hope all is well and Happy Belated 4th of July!!! To start July off I decided to post about my (slowly) growing collection of drugstore lipsticks. As a darkskinned girl/dark chocolate girl I always believed that brighter lipsticks were not for me. Whenever I walked past the lipstick aisle I strayed far away from the pink/red/orange lipsticks. 

As I ventured into my obsession with youtube makeup videos, I discovered that darkskinned girls can wear bright lipsticks! I now know that I can make any lipstick work. I can't just slap lipsticks onto my lips because lipliners are a must! 

Dark Orange/Burnt Orange- Jordana: Matte Frappuccino

I wasn't crazy about this color at first, but with a dark brown liner it is tolerable.

Reddish Nude- Wet N Wild: Mocha-licious

This is my absolute favorite everyday lipstick. A  MUST HAVE if you are looking for a nude that isn't frosty white.

Red Wine- Megaslicks: Lady & The Vamp

This lipstick is very moisturizing. It is build-able, very glossy/shiny, and the packaging is super cute. This one I would definitely wear with a liner.

There are some more colors in my YOUTUBE video blogger fam.....head on over to check it out! While you're there, take two seconds and subscribe to my channel (I'll love you forever). I have hair, fashion, makeup, and girl talk videos. Hope to see you there!