October 16, 2009

How Much Is Too Much

Sure As A Woman I Will Sit Here And Say "Yeah I Want My Boyfriend To Be As Honest With Me As Possible".....But Ladies How Much Honesty Is Too Damn Much?

There Was One Fellow Blogger's Post That I Read And It Stated "Honesty Breeds Trust" But How Real Is That Saying? Like If Ur Too Honest And Told Me You Slept With My Cuzin (For Example) There Is No Trust In Hell That Is Going To Come From That (Maybe A Black Eye Or Something) But NO TRUST. The Only Way I Agree With That Quote Is Depending On How Bad What You Lied About Is.....For Example, If You Were Out Sleeping Around On Me Etc. And Suddenly Felt Guilty ....I'm Sorry Ur Better Off Taking That Ish To The Grave Because Otherwise I'm Putting You In A Grave!

The Other Day My Significant Other Wowed Me And Got Really Deep And Started Confessing Somethings To Me....I Mean They Weren't Major Things But When You Hear Your Mans Skeletons Falling Out The Closet Its Kool But At The Same Time No Bueno.

Why Is It No Bueno?

Well First Off You Revealing Stuff To Me Only Leads Me To Wonder Like Hmm If You Keep This On The Downlow ...What The Hell Else Are You Hiding?

Why Is It Kool?

In My Mind I Feel Like If You Are A Filthy Man Then Why Would You Put Yourself Out There And Make Your G/f Paranoid By Sharing Stuff With Her? If You Have Nothing To Hide Why Not Just Get Your Past Off Your Chest? Which Is Why I'm Kinda Digging My B/f Now.

For Some Odd Reason When He Revealed His Lil Tidbits (Which Weren't Earth Shattering) I Couldn't Help But To Love Him Harder Than Before....Now Why Is That......

I Couldn't Say But At That Moment, In That Instance Of Him Bearing His Soul, I Somehow Felt We Connected. I Felt Like He Was Human, And He Wasn't Sugarcoating Anything....I Liked That. Basically He Shared And I Shared ...It Was A Freeing Experience. (Again We Had No Outrageous Confessions But The Whole Convo Was Really Nice).

The Part That Caught Me Was When I Asked Him:
Why Wud You Tell Me These Things? What If I Couldn't Handle It?

And He Said "Because I Love You And If You Leave It's Something I Have To Deal With, And I Feel You Should Know The Truth."

In That Millisecond I Related With That Quote...Honesty Does Breed Trust And Now I Do Feel Like He's 100 Percent Real With Me.....I Mean I DEADASS Will Never Put ANYTHING Past ANYBODY...PERIOD...But I Do Trust This Guy And My Heart Is Alot Calmer With Him Than It Ever Has Been.

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