July 31, 2010

Book Review

Okay So This Summer I'm Trying To Keep The Little Wheels In My Head Rolling By Reading On A Regular Basis (Even If The Book Is Mush) At least I'm Reading Dammit. So Right Now I'm Halfway Through A Book Called The Five Love Languages for Singles By Gary Chapman.

Basically In The Book (Not Done With It Yet).... The Author Tries To Educate People On Relationships And Love In General. In A Nutshell The Author Points Out That Different People Have Different Ways Of Communicating With Each Other In Regards To Love (Hope I'm Gonna Make Sense) Mkay Each Person Has A Different Language Of Love, And Different People Hold These Different Languages Of Love At A Different Level Of Importance In Contrast To Another Person. There Are 5 Languages That Exist And They Are:
1. Words Of Affirmation (Being Positive And Uplifting Through Your Words To The Ones You Love)
2. Gifts (Giving/Receiving Gifts To Demonstrate Love)

3. Acts of Service (Doing Good Deeds/Helpful Things In Order To Help Those U Love)

4. Quality Time ( Spending Time With The One U Love)

5. Physical Touch (Making Sure Through Holding/Touching/Love Making) That Your Partner Is Satisfied

Alright So You Know How A Woman Says "O He Doesn't Do Sh*t Around The House" That Person Accepts Acts Of Service As Their Main Language Of Love. That Woman Who Has A Lazy Boyfriend Or Husband Will Start To Resent Their Other Half Because He Doesn't Accommodate His Girlfriend/Wife To Speak Her Language Of Love (Which She Holds Very High). That Female Probably Believes That A Man DOING For Her In Order To Help Her Whether Financially, Around The House, With Her Car...Etc Is Essential In Proving That A Man Loves Her.

And You Know How A Person Says: "O She Doesn't Spend Time With Me Anymore, She Doesn't Love Me, There's Somebody Else" Well This Person Complains Because Their Main Language Of Love Is Quality Time. If You Are With Someone Whose Main Language Of Love Is Quality Time And You Don't Provide That....Then You Better Be Sure Your Relationship Will Slowly Deteriorate.....

One More Example Is You Know How U Have A Girlfriend Who Says: "He Never Tells Me I'm Beautiful" Or A Woman That Says: "I'm Independent, Smart, And A Breadwinner Of The Family But My Husband Never Acknowledges All The Things That I Do" Well Those Girls Are Big On Words Of Affirmation 2 Keep Them Happy And Satisfied In a Relationship. These Women Need 2 Hear From Their Boyfriends/Husbands "Baby I Love You, You're Beautiful, And I Appreciate All That You Do".

Basically As Someone In A Relationship Or Starting A New Relationship You Have To Pay Close Attention To What Your Partner Is Saying In Order To Determine What Their Primary Language Of Love Is. I Believe My Primary Love Language Is Most Definitely Quality Time....It Will Not Work Between Me And A Man If He Can't Give Me Some "Us" Time. PERIOD. It Is Nice To Get And Give A Little Of Each Of These Languages From/To Your Partner But For Each Individual There Is Always One Love Language They Feel Is ABSOLUTELY Necessary In Order For Their Relationship 2 Function. Time 2 Be Little Investigators People!

What Are Your Thoughts? Which Language Of Love Are You Guys' #1's?

P.S. The Book Is Really Good....Pick It Up....You Don't Even Have 2 Be Single 2 Enjoy It, Very Insightful.

I'm Outtie Tho....Love, Live Life!


Mrkickologist said...

sounds interesting...i might give it a look.

S Jones Aka Shirley said...

@mr kick: yessss...you'll like it!!!